“I was the youngest of three siblings to come out as queer. My older brother came out at 16, my younger brother came out at 27, and I came out at 31. I met a girl in 2015 who drop-kicked me out of the closet. Before her, I had a subconscious premonition I wasn’t straight, so after meeting her, I could no longer ignore it.
I spent the following four years identifying as pansexual, then fluid, then bi, back to fluid, and finally a lesbian. At 30 I was living my best openly queer life with one exception: my parents still didn’t know. As 2020 approached, my brothers and I had a running joke I should just text them: ‘Happy New Year from your super gay daughter!’ as a way to ‘rip the band-aid off,’ but I was too nervous. I asked my older brother to do it for me, and on January 1, I was officially out to everyone and I finally felt free.”